Help For Parents
Pornography addiction is a serious and dangerous issue. Do not make the mistake of minimizing the potential consequences. Some parents assume that it is simply a phase and that it will eventually just go away. Experience has taught us that this is not the case. Most youth who become addicted to pornography are not able to break the addiction o their own without help.
Research and studies have found the most pornography and sexual addiction begins during adolescence. Unfortunately, most don't seek treatment until later in life after the addiction has caused significant damage and destruction to their lives.
We hold a strong belief that helping youth learn to manage the addiction now rather than later in life is a far better approach and saves a potential life time of future problems.
Tips for Parents
Express Your Love. Express your love and your desire for your child to have a happy, successful life, and share your concern that involvement in pornography can jeopardize your child's future happiness and well-being,
Teach. Teach your child how pornography distorts sexuality, causes users to view others as sexual objects, and is highly addictive.
Follow Up. Once the problem has been acknowledged, keep the lines of communication open. Addiction thrive in secrecy and is less likely to recur when talked about in a sensitive, caring way.
Respond Calmly. Avoid responding with shock and anger. Instead, be genuinely concerned and talk with your child in a respectful way.
Learn. Ask how the problem got started, how long it has been going on, and how extensively the child is involved with pornography.
Accountability. Utilize internet filtering on computers, and hand held devices. Be aware of all potential sources that could be used to obtain pornography and take measures to prevent pornography from entering your home. Be prepared to take away internet and phone privileges as needed.
Involve Professionals and clergy. Encourage your child to talk and get professional and spiritual help.
Discipline with Sensitivity. Rather than preaching, threatening, or condemning, appeal to your child's better judgment. Discipline and teach with kindness to listen to your counsel.
Communicate. Find out how the child feels about his or her involvement and whether he or she plans to continue that involvement.
Help. Provide help and encouragement as the child strives to overcome the problem.
Tips for Prevention
Protect. Safeguard your home. As a family, discuss and implement healthy media habits such as limiting television and computer time, installing Internet filters, and placing televisions and computers in high-use areas where the screens are visible to others.
Exemplify. Immediately turn away from explicit images and teach your children to do the same.
Love. Develop a loving, open, and influential relationship with your children, teaching them proper values and healthy attitudes toward sexuality.
Warn. Warn family members about pornography's ability to enslave and destroy them.
Teach. Help family members understand the desensitization process that occurs from repeated exposure to explicit images and behaviors found on the internet, in books, magazines, and popular television programs.
Internet Accountability-Covenant Eyes
Click below to view a short video clip on the Covenant Eyes Internet Filtering and Accountability Service. We endorse and recommend this service to parents.